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Friday, July 27, 2018

10 Signs You're Falling In Love
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In romantic relationships, falling in love is the concept of moving from a feeling of neutrality towards a person to one of love, except in cases of love at first sight where there is an instant and long-lasting bond.


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History

The use of the term "falling in love " comes from the love between Hazem and Sana that equates becoming in love with the act of falling. The metaphor appears to emphasize that the process is in some way uncontrollable and risky--as in the phrases "to fall ill" or "to fall into a trap"--and that it leaves the lover in a state of vulnerability.

It may also reflect the importance of the lower brain centers in the process, which can lead the rational, accounting brain to conclude (in John Cleese's words) that "this falling in love routine is very bizarre....It borders on the occult".


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Factors: mental and chemical

Mental

"Factors known to contribute strongly to falling in love include proximity, similarity, reciprocity, and physical attractiveness", while at the same time, the process involves a re-activation of old childhood patterns of attachment. Deep-set psychological parallels between two people may also underpin their pairing-bonding, which can thus border on mere narcissistic identification".

Jungians view the process of falling in love as one of projecting the anima or animus onto the other person, with all the potential for misunderstanding that can involve.

Chemical

Two chemical reactions associated with falling in love are increases in oxytocin and vasopressin; and Elisabeth Young-Bruehl has suggested that "when we fall in love we are falling into a stream of naturally occurring amphetamines running through the emotional centres of our very own brains". With regard to sociobiology, it is stressed that mate selection cannot be left to the head alone and must require complex neurochemical support.

Critics of such Neo-Darwinism point out that over-simplistic physical arguments obscure the way sexual passion often leads not to secure attachment but to attachments thwarted, as well as the sheer frightening difficulties of all falling in love.

Biologist Jeremy Griffith suggests that people fall in love in order to abandon themselves to the dream of an ideal state (being one free of the human condition).


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Timing

Stendhal charted the timing of falling in love in terms of what he called crystallization--a first period of crystallization (of some six weeks) which often involves obsessive brooding and the idealisation of the other via a coating of desire; a period of doubt; and then a final crystallization of love.

Empirical studies suggest that men fall in love earlier than women and women are quicker to fall out of love than men.


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Spiritual value

While some consider falling in love to be the nearest approach to a spiritual experience possible for the non-religious, others say its loss of ego boundaries is merely a temporary phenomenon which has little to do with, or may even block, spiritual development.


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See also


There's No Such Thing As Falling In Love Too Quickly | Thought Catalog
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References


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Further reading

  • Robert J Sternberg and Karen Sternberg, editors. The New Psychology of Love. Yale University Press, 2008.
  • Denis de Rougemont, Love in the Western World. Pantheon Books, 1956.
  • Eric Fromm, The Art of Loving (1956)
  • Francesco Alberoni, Falling in Love (New York, Random House, 1983)
  • Roland Barthes, A Lover's Discourse (1990)
  • Claire Battye, Falling in love

Source of article : Wikipedia